I feel so bad about this?
Once you read this, do NOT even dare try to call me a bad friend.
Okay, i’m diagnosed with depression (keep that in mind). Me and my bestfriend hung out for a week straight. As in, she spend the night at my house for a whole week. thursday she left my house and went to dollywood with some of her friends and came back around eight. She wanted to spend the night again but i needed time by myself. Friday (july 3rd) i was going to a relative’s house to shoot fireworks and she wanted to hang out that day but i didn’t text her back because it was two hours after she texted me anyways. Today (monday) she wanted to hang out but i’m just not up to it. I didn’t check my phone the whole day and she had called and texted and everything and left a mean voicemail saying how it was pissing her off and how bi*chy i was being. I felt really bad and told her sorry and everything and that i was just feeling down lately (from depression) and just needed to be alone and that was the truth. she asked if i wanted to chill this week and i told her that tuesday and saturday i couldn’t and she just said okay, but didn’t say she wanted to hang out wensday, or thursday? Maybe she was busy those days, idk. But i don’t want her being mad at me, she’s my bestfriend and i **** saying that i don’t feel like hanging out with her. But i’m just not up for it. I’m not sure what i can say to her anymore because this is the first time she’s actually called me and left an ugly voicemail. She thought i was mad at her and that i had a problem with her and told me that i need to tell her now instead of ignoring her but i clarified for her that i wasn’t made and that i was ignoring her on purpose, that i just wasnt checking my phone cause i didn’t want to talk to anyone. So what do i do now? What do i say?
Shes my bestfriend but i hang out with her all the time, and i need a break and whenever i take a break, i’m just not up to hanging out with her when she asks. I love her to death but i’m not sure how much longer she will put up with my behavior; i don’t mean to be this way, its just how i have to be when i’m more depressed than usual.
she also has ALOT of other friends, i mean alot (shes the popular one in our friendship) so i dont see why she just has to single me out and get mad when she can just go hang out with one of them. And yeah, its partly because she wants to hang out with me specifically, but if i were in her position, i wouldnt nag on and on her about it. I would just leave her alone and whenever she decided to call or whatever, then fine. So what should i do/say? :[
Please, don’t be mean and tell me how much of a bi*ch i’m being because if you were in my position, you would understand and telling me how i’m such a bi*tch and that my friend shouldn’t be friends with me in the first place isn’t going to do anything.
thanks….
Marvin
Christian
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Jo
you should just tell her the truth. if shes as good as a friend as you say, she will understand.
Edward
well you need to apoligise just say you need some you time because your feeling upset and as soon as your ready to hang out again tell her youll ring her and you can have some serious catch up time……of course from her view your ignoring her…………… dont forget that shes your best friend………we all have to do things we dont wanna do or are not up for but if we see it through we end up having a great time….. even when ur not up for something sometimes you should do it anyway becasues shes your bestfriend and its what friends do
Holly
I don’t think you are a bad friend at all.
Your friend is mad because she misses you. This is good news! She cares about you and wants to spend time with you.
She needs to know some of the things you put in this post. She needs to know how much you care, and how much you don’t want to lose her. You don’t have to say it just like that (it can be kinda weird), but she needs to feel it. You could say, “If I hung out with anyone, I would want it to be you.”
I think she cares about you and isn’t going to leave you because of this. But everyone’s insecure, and she needs to see that you care.
Charlotte
I kinda think I know what you are talking about, just tell her that you are still best friends its just your having a tough time right now, and that you just need a little time to kinda (not meaning to be mean) get your life a little bit put back together ( I really didn’t mean to be mean i promise I just didnt really know how to put that ) So I hope that helps!
Hazel
She is your best friend so she should know about your depression right?so you just say im not really up for hangin out,she should be able to be ok with that knowing that you have depression.And also youre not going to get along ALL the time.There are gonna be a few times when ya’ll will not get along,she should be ok with it because she should already know that you have depression and that it makes you feel like that sometimes
Sandra
oh ur not being a bad friend. in my eyes, its just a misunderstanding like your friend doesnt exactly understand. it happens and she will get over it just be nice to her well you have been but yea.. try to explain it to her. and if you have then just give her a little time and when u both happen to be free and willing.. hang out or soemthing. thats the best advice i have. but dont feel bad about it. u really didnt do anything wrong.. it was just a misunderstanding.
Amy
just be real with her,
if she is your best friend she will understand.
have a girl to girl talk.
tell her you just need alone time. its nothign she did or anythign and that you do love her, but there is too much of a good thing.
talk from your heart ,she’ll understand.
btw you dont sound like a *****.it just kinda soundslike you use depression as an excuse,when everyone
Billy
Well first of all there is nothing in this story to call you a b***** because you have a very strong reason why you want t be alone and not hang out with her so she is being a b***** that is not helping you to feel better. There is nothing more important than yourself especially now that you dot feel well. So keep your head up and don’t care for your friends if they don’t care for you!
I hope this helped!
Life is good just take it easy!!!