Like we rarely ever get to see eachother as it is..
and every time we have the chance to see eachother, she makes some excuse on how she can’t meet with me [we're both teenagers and we both don't have cars.. i'm 19, yes, don't have a car.. never wanted one because i bike and skate everywhere i go]
she lives about 25 minutes away..
but when i offer to give someone gas, she makes a new excuse on how that won’t work.
I went to the beach with her one day and her, her friend in whom lives with her, and her brother decided they wanted to go to malls each of those days and shop.. not once did they get in the water or tan etc.
She made excuses the entire time to spend more time with two people she lives with than to spend time with me.
I ditched going to the ocean for a weak just now in order to spend time with her, and in return she heads off to Tennessee with her brother to go to dollywood.
I ask if I can tag along [her brother has a **** ton of money and is generous with it] and she says that he probably wouldn’t want me to go.
Although they’re taking their friend who lives with them.
I ask her to simply ask and she continues to make excuses.
They all plan on going to the beach after they get back from Dollywood and I ask for them to pick me up so I can spend time with her and she continues to make excuses.
We had a ton of issues occur when we first started dating with her and past exes.
I don’t really know if I should continue dating her.. It seems like things can get so much better but when all begins to look super good, it shoots straight back down with stupid ****.
I know i’m probably being stupid.. but… i don’t like relationships.. when i date someone i plan on dating them and having things go swell.. i’m sort of sick of counting girls down on my fingers.
I’ll stay single for years at a time but when i come to date someone i try to make it work out because it took a ton for me to date them in the first place.
So what do each of you think?
Should I just give up and grin about it and just mark her down as another failure who wasn’t worth the time or is there anything I might try or talk to her about to get her head straight.
I’m very literal and i’ve spoken to her about this multiple times and all seems to go great as said for a short time, but then it’s like she forgets not even a few days later and i’m just left highly irritated.
Gabriel
Okay, i’m diagnosed with depression (keep that in mind). Me and my bestfriend hung out for a week straight. As in, she spend the night at my house for a whole week. thursday she left my house and went to dollywood with some of her friends and came back around eight. She wanted to spend the night again but i needed time by myself. Friday (july 3rd) i was going to a relative’s house to shoot fireworks and she wanted to hang out that day but i didn’t text her back because it was two hours after she texted me anyways. Today (monday) she wanted to hang out but i’m just not up to it. I didn’t check my phone the whole day and she had called and texted and everything and left a mean voicemail saying how it was pissing her off and how bi*chy i was being. I felt really bad and told her sorry and everything and that i was just feeling down lately (from depression) and just needed to be alone and that was the truth. she asked if i wanted to chill this week and i told her that tuesday and saturday i couldn’t and she just said okay, but didn’t say she wanted to hang out wensday, or thursday? Maybe she was busy those days, idk. But i don’t want her being mad at me, she’s my bestfriend and i **** saying that i don’t feel like hanging out with her. But i’m just not up for it. I’m not sure what i can say to her anymore because this is the first time she’s actually called me and left an ugly voicemail. She thought i was mad at her and that i had a problem with her and told me that i need to tell her now instead of ignoring her but i clarified for her that i wasn’t made and that i was ignoring her on purpose, that i just wasnt checking my phone cause i didn’t want to talk to anyone. So what do i do now? What do i say?
Shes my bestfriend but i hang out with her all the time, and i need a break and whenever i take a break, i’m just not up to hanging out with her when she asks. I love her to death but i’m not sure how much longer she will put up with my behavior; i don’t mean to be this way, its just how i have to be when i’m more depressed than usual.
she also has ALOT of other friends, i mean alot (shes the popular one in our friendship) so i dont see why she just has to single me out and get mad when she can just go hang out with one of them. And yeah, its partly because she wants to hang out with me specifically, but if i were in her position, i wouldnt nag on and on her about it. I would just leave her alone and whenever she decided to call or whatever, then fine. So what should i do/say? :[
Please, don’t be mean and tell me how much of a bi*ch i’m being because if you were in my position, you would understand and telling me how i’m such a bi*tch and that my friend shouldn’t be friends with me in the first place isn’t going to do anything.
thanks….
Marvin
thankyou in advance=)
Leo
